For many of us, a diagnosis was supposed to be the beginning of healing. An explanation. A way forward. But what if it was never the full truth? What if the symptoms you’ve been labeled with are not disorders at all—but survival codes? What if the patterns you’ve been trying to fix… were never broken […]

Healing is not always loud. Sometimes, it moves through you in quiet, subtle shifts—whispers of transformation before they become roars of change. In CPTSD Medicine, the unburdening process is not just about understanding trauma; it is about releasing the trauma agreements you never chose. These agreements—formed in survival—once kept you safe but no longer serve […]

Regret-free decision making is possible, even if fear, doubt, or past trauma have left you feeling stuck or uncertain about your choices. Decision-making can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re carrying the weight of complex trauma. The fear of making the “wrong” choice or regretting your decision later can leave you stuck in a cycle of […]

Emotional disconnection in a marriage can feel like standing on opposite sides of an unbridgeable gap. The loneliness, frustration, and confusion that come with it often leave you wondering, Is it me? Is it them? Is this relationship salvageable? What am I doing? What should I do? But what if the experience of disconnection wasn’t […]

When faced with the decision about divorce, it can feel like one of the most overwhelming and confusing experiences of your life. I know I have been there, twice, actually. When we reach that crossroads in our marriage—the moment where staying together feels as impossible as leaving—it can be one of the most overwhelming and […]

Feeling stuck deciding whether to stay or leave? I felt so incredibly lonely and isolated when I was deciding whether to stay or leave my first marriage. It seemed like there was no one I could really talk to about this decision. Sure, I could complain, vent, and seek validation for how miserable I felt, […]

Once we understand we have CPTSD, many of us want to know how to achieve efficient progress in CPTSD Resolution next.  In CPTSD Medicine, we use the term CPTSD Resolution to communicate that something has completed, closed, ended. “Having CPTSD” is something you no longer identify with. You had CPTSD and now you do not.  […]

Do you make fear-based decisions on the daily? When you are living with Unresolved CPTSD you are often also living in fear. Fear that your partner will leave you. Fear that you will become penniless without a job. Fear that you are a fool, an evil person, or worthless. Fear that you are fat and […]

One of the most overlooked consequences of untreated or unresolved CPTSD is the emergence of behaviors that can feel, or be perceived as, selfish. Addressing this directly is not about shame or blame—it is about understanding the deeper layers beneath it. You are not selfish. You are not a bad person. But when your internal […]