Fear-Based Decisions and CPTSD

Do you make fear-based decisions on the daily?

When you are living with Unresolved CPTSD you are often also living in fear. Fear that your partner will leave you. Fear that you will become penniless without a job. Fear that you are a fool or an evil person, or worthless, fat and lazy. 

When we are making life decisions full of fear and out of fear, those decisions are likely something that is going to need to be unwound or undone in the future. 

It is a very exhausting way to live, because everything needs a “Redo” or “Take Two” or repair. We are constantly fixing or correcting our original decisions. 

Notice I did not say “mistake.” Because I don’t believe these fear-based decisions are mistakes per se. They can be powerful data sources for identifying the nature of the fear that your internal system is running. If you have frameworks for analyzing your decision-making patterns you can distill powerful lessons that fuel Unburdening trauma energies. 

When trauma energies are released in your internal system you have more access to Self Energy. When we are making Self-Energy-fueled decisions, we are trusting more, embodying more patience, and often can see things more clearly. With this new evidence that we can make wise decisions, not only are we no longer beholden to fear, and more Self Energetic, but it is easier to show up in Love.

When we are showing up in Love everything just unfolds naturally with grace and mercy. This is where all the laws of attraction make sense. 

And yet, it takes a lot of courage to change. Many Parts of us are terrified to begin real-deal healing. At some deep level, your internal system and external ecosystem know that things cannot stay the same with your healing. Some tough conversations may be ahead. You will have to feel your feelings and that will be extremely uncomfortable at time. Your lifestyle might need to shift or evolve. The bad habits you have justified will need to be examined. It can feel like a lot at first.

All that is required is that you take one small baby step a day to build enough trust in your internal system to begin a holistic, comprehensive healing sabbatical. During these two years, you will make your CPTSD Resolution a top three priority. On the Other Side then you can make up for lost time.