I work with successful professionals who feel confident at work but lost in love. They struggle with repeating relationship failures, abandonment panic, and self-sabotage in intimacy. Even after years of therapy, they feel stuck in the same painful cycles. Many still find themselves longing for an ex and feeling intense disappointment it didn’t work out, even when they know that person was no good for them.
I know the confusion and heartbreak feel overwhelming. And if this is you, then I want to share with you that the real reason your stuck is not because you're broken. It’s because trauma is still running your internal system.
What you may not realize yet is that the path to stable, secure love is not another round of therapy, coping skills, or relationship hacks. The real work is learning how to release trauma energies. Until those energies are unburdened, trauma will keep acting as the matchmaker instead of your True Self.
Childhood taught you that love = achievement, so your nervous system learned “I must perform to be seen.” This works in your career, but intimacy re-creates the attachment context where you never had safety. That’s why you thrive in work but collapse in love. Talk therapy and coping skills can soothe, but they cannot resolve this at the root. Until Trauma Energies are released and Self Energies are amplified, you remain caught in distortions of survival, parts of you trying to live in love without ever having known safety.
You are not crazy. The ONLY THING WRONG WITH YOU IS THAT You are running trauma energies
that need to be released.
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Students often tell me they want to “finally get love right.” They long for a relationship that feels safe and lasting, instead of heartbreak after heartbreak. But quietly, many fear the opposite: that they will never figure it out and end up alone forever, or that they’ll compromise and stay in a relationship that drains them, holding it together at work while using work to escape home.
What I know, and what they rarely imagine, is so much bigger. You come to healing for love, but after resolution you realize love is no longer the center of your life. The very thing you once obsessed over loses its power. It becomes a natural fact of life, not the prize you’re desperate to win.
Your life itself feels deeply rewarding, joyful, and whole. You wake up satisfied simply to be yourself, aligned with your medicine and your magic. From that rootedness, love may flourish, but it is no longer the goal. You become sovereign, grounded, free.
The truth is, your struggles in intimacy are not proof you are broken. They are the natural outcome of unresolved trauma responses, patterns that coping skills and talk therapy can soothe but never resolve.
What you really need is a path that unburdens trauma energies and amplifies Self Energy, so you can stop living as a trauma-shaped version of yourself and start living as your True Self.
And when you do, you discover the surprising outcome most people never imagine: you no longer chase love. Love becomes a natural fact of life, not the center of it. You become satisfied, sovereign, and whole, and from that wholeness, the relationships you once longed for are finally possible.
At this point, you are probably wondering: How do I shift the proportions of energy I’m running, so that more Self Energy is present and fewer trauma energies are in charge?
If you were to work with me, this is the approach I use.
Following the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol, we focus on two related but distinct tasks: releasing trauma energies and amplifying Self Energies. Both are needed, and both are practiced simultaneously.
Over the past five years, I have tested, vetted, and woven together many different techniques, modalities, and approaches to healing trauma. From each, I translated only the active ingredients that truly worked, and I discarded the extra steps or frameworks that didn’t serve the task of resolving CPTSD.
I have organized these active ingredients into clear frameworks, applied as interventions to the specific mechanisms that cause symptoms. This is root cause analysis, not just diagnosis. It is what shapes the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol.
Releasing Trauma Energies
1. Unburdening using Internal Family Systems
2. Moving Energy using David Elliot's breathwork method
3. Repairing Lineage Disconnections using Daniel Fore's Ancestral Medicine and Ann Sinko's Legacy Unburdenings
4. Expressing Truth with Patrick Teahan's Inner Child activities
5. Releasing Shame using Mike Elkin's mistaken interpretation protocol
6. Clearing Absorber Energy Centers using Ra Uru Hu's Human Design
7. Honoring the Lineage Woundings of the Shadow Frequency of the Activation Sequence of Richard Rudd's Gene Keys
8. Offering Life-Affirming Compassion using Edward Mannix's Compassion Key
Amplifying Self Energies
1. Accessing and Purifying 11 Native Sources of Healing Power
2. Calibrating Life Force Energy to Amplifier Energy Centers using Ra Uru Hu's Human Design
3. Reclaiming the Lineage Gifts of the Gift and Siddhi Frequencies of the Activation Sequence of Richard Rudd's Gene Keys
4. Honoring the Divine Archetypal Resonances using inspirations from Ariel Spilsbury's 13 Moons Mystery School
5. Anchoring Ancient Wisdom using mantras inspired by Priestess Graellyn
6. Protecting ourselves using CycleBreaking Leadership Practices inspired by diverse life coaching frameworks
7. Fortifying our energetic being using Elemental Medicine inspired by shamans from around the world
8. Aligning with our Sacred Blueprint inspired by Daniel Giamario's Turning of the Ages Mystery School
This is absolutely about your personal healing, but it is also about stopping the transmission of trauma to future generations.
Hate movements are fueled by unresolved trauma. CycleBreaking stops the supply.
